And Then It Happened
I always knew it would, someday. Not that it makes it any less humiliating.
I have one brother. He is very Busy and Important and has a nuclear family which elicits him no end of sympathy and babysitting from our collective parental units.
Me? Single with cats and horses. Only two cats, I hasten to add. I have not yet veered off the rails into Crazy Cat Lady territory, and besides, my place is too small to accommodate any more. There would be squabbles. The current two are littermates and thus get on rather well.
And four horses. All of whom, for one reason or another, have rendered themselves virtually unsellable.
There’s a damaged-goods broodmare, who is very well bred but got herself badly torn up delivering Son #1 and had to endure four surgeries at the U of Guelph, to put her back together. (My bank balance also had to endure it. And so did a lot of vet students whom Roxy tried to murder in cold blood prior to, and during, the aforementioned surgeries.) My vet has now forbidden me to breed her again, and besides, she’s 16 and as a riding horse she is a hard mare to love. Though I do. If she were my only rideable beast, she would drive me fucking nuts because she’s a peculiar combo pack of Alpha Mare and total neurotic, which is rather like tossing random acids together to see just how noxious a green cloud you can manufacture. Yup, I love her.
Then there’s the laminitic pony, Trouble; she’s a Hackney/Shetland cross whose main function ’round here is to be a babysitter. She is the world’s least evil pony, which is to her credit. Trouble foundered despite all my best efforts, a number of years ago, and my farrier tries to console me by saying, “There are only two types of ponies — the ones who are foundered and the ones who are going to founder.” Most of the year, she does just fine, but she does experience episodes of foot pain for a few weeks at a time and requires nursing and coddling … hence, unsellable.
Spike, who is Son #1 out of Roxy, would probably be the most marketable of the bunch except that he decided, inexplicably, to become a headshaker this past spring. Headshaking is a neurological thing which seems to involve the trigeminal nerve in the face; it makes horses toss their heads up and down uncontrollably, or rub their muzzles on any available object, and it also makes them a pain in the ass to ride. Spike’s symptoms seem to come and go, and they’ve abated for the moment, which is great, but I couldn’t in good 
conscience sell him, which is my excuse for keeping him till he expires.
And finally, there’s Parker, second and last issue of Roxy, who has just turned three and is like a shiny little loonie of potential. Except for two things. One (I sincerely hope) is temporary: back in February he did something to his left hind leg, and he has been gimpy ever since. All attempts at diagnosis have thus far, failed miserably in the way that only expensive but utterly unproductive vet bills can, but I have faith that he will come sound in his own good time, whether it’s a bone bruise, or some wee weird little ligament tear that evaded the ultrasound wand, or something even more exotic. For the moment, though, he’s benched, with the launch of his under-saddle career on hold. The other thing appears to be more permanent, though I could be wrong: he’s beautifully put together, as handsome a picture of athletic Thoroughbred conformation as you could want to see, but he’s … well, petite. Barely 15 hands right now. Butt-high, so there may still be some growing to do (horses don’t tend to shoot up evenly when they’re maturing — they get taller in their hindquarters first and then their front ends catch up, or at least you pray to Epona that they do). But on the whole, disappointingly petite, which is not likely to make him appeal to the current market either.
So, four horses, an income which is erratic, at best, and a part-time boyfriend who lives two hours down the highway. Maybe it’s no wonder it happened.
I’m obsfucating, you say, gentle reader? Okay. Um …
My parents are getting older. No way, yours too? The hell you say.
Also, my parents live in a place where I do not wish to live. It’s a city that feels like a huge, irrevocable 16-tonne-weight dead end to me (and the stats bear me out — it currently holds the dubious distinction of having the highest unemployment levels in the province).
Of course, it’s not like my proximity to Toronto has really paid off in terms of employment, either. I’m going on three years now without anything resembling a full-time, non-contract, non-short-term, job, in my field or out of it. But at least with the largest metropolis in Canada in commutable territory, one can fantasize that there might be a spine-tingling opportunity justttttt …. around the corner.
(Re: the above — What the hell is up with the subtitles? What, are Sondheim’s lyrics not clear?)
Mind you, this sort of thinking immediately reminds me of the ex-boyfriend who got himself brainwashed by the Amway zombies (“We’re not selling the products, we’re selling the opportunity“). That tantalizing, magic moment where all the money he was shoveling into a bottomless pit was suddenly going to come shooting back up to him in ejaculatory wonder was always dangling just out of reach, OMFG he could almost taste it, and his upline — formerly his Xerox-repair guy — kept promising he was doing so well, he’d be Going Diamond and walking the beaches of the world in a week, maybe two …. well, in a word, feh.
If there’s anything I loathe more than multi-level-marketing fucktards and their bags of batshit, I cannot for the life of me think what it might be.
But there I go, digressing again.
The thing is, I always knew that there would come a point where my parents would need one of their offspring to come home and pitch in on the things that had become difficult for them to do. And that my brother, being Busy and Important and a Parent and all, would not be the one volunteered. Nope.
I don’t think my parents are actually at that point yet, though their house — a split-split-split-level product of the 60’s — is now presenting some challenges since every damn room is connected to the next with a flight of stairs. That’s a few too many stair chairs.
But last week, my father came out with it.
“I think you should consider moving back home.”
And he must’ve seen the colour just drain out of my face, but he forged ahead anyway because that’s what he does. “You have no 
steady income, you’re having trouble meeting expenses, you could whittle the horses down to, maybe, two? ….” and the piece de resistance, “… and your mother could use the help.”
And I know the latter is starting to be true, but at what point is the humiliation of one’s failed career so fulsome and complete that moving back into one’s parents’ house in suburbia, kissing any vestige of an adult lifestyle sayonara, preferable to, say, flinging oneself in front of a cattle truck or signing up to flog noni juice to your former friends?
“Just think about it,” he said.
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